Tough Conversations! 2nd Friday Parenting Hat

Do you dread those tough conversations with your kids? What kinds of conversations are hard for you as a parent to have with your kids? What conversations are tough and uncomfortable for  your kids to hear?

Sometimes it’s difficult to sit our kids down and have frank discussion about things they may encounter in life.  We feel self conscious, uncomfortable, and even maybe a bit embarrassed when we are faced with having the conversations with our kids about sex.  We may think that our kids would never have a need to know about the dangers of alcohol and drugs.  We may think that our kids are on the right path and don’t need a lot of direct conversation about things that happen in life and  the choices they will face – and of the consequences of both.

Tamra Wade of PaperHopeBlog joined Mom of Many Hats Radio to talk about the discussions we must be having with our kids.  She shared with us personal stories about the types of conversations she has had with her daughters, how she has approached them, and how they have played out. Through her blog  a collection of writings and stories from her  own life as a teen,  she shares her journal entries from her angst filled teenage years as a source of conversation for other moms and daughters to base tough conversations around.  Through the use of these stories, parents and kids have a safe and neutral place to talk about the situations and decisions that kids will face in their lives.

Although as parents we often feel uncomfortable about starting the conversations, we must get past our own discomfort and have frank and honest conversations with our kids. In today’s world our kids are facing the same things that we did when we were their age, but it comes at them so much faster and furiously due to technology.  For that reason, we need to be proactive and have the tough discussions with them. Tamra gave us these tips on how to do that:

  • Set a Good Environment – Choose a time, a place and an environment that is going to be free of other distractions or siblings that may interfere with the conversation.
  • Share Stories – People relate to stories that are similar to what they are going through.  Sharing a story helps to make the other person feel like they are not alone in a situation or decision.  It provides a safe place and a conversation starter.
  • Ask Open Ended Questions – Open ended questions require more than just a yes or no answer.  They encourage discussion and keep the conversation flowing.

If you would like to know more about how to have tough conversations with your children, visit Tamra’s site PaperHopeBlog.  To listen to the broadcast of this show, click HERE To listen to broadcasts from any of the Mom of Many Hats Radio Shows, click HERE .  To take Mom of Many Hats Radio with you where ever you go – get the FREE ITUNES downloads my clicking the PODCAST GAL on the side bar!

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Second Friday Parenting Hat: Instinct, Intuition, Information 9/9/11

What leads your parenting style? Do you rely on instinct, intuition , or information most in making your parenting decisions?

Surely we are all guided by all three in our parenting.  But, how heavily we each rely on instinct, intuition, and information differs from person to person.  For some of us we may simply just know what to do out of instinct.  Our instant reactions to parenting situations are what guide our actions and parenting style.  We can rely on what our natural reactions are to guide us to what to do in most situations.  For some of us, intuition and “feeling” the right way to react and proceed is what guides us. We consider ourselves in tune to our children and their needs.  We may have some internal struggles about what to do, be we rely on what our gut is telling us.  Still for other of us, information from others, from books, or from other sources may be what drives how we parent. We need the checks and balances of a logical argument to guide us in the decisions we make.

None of these are bad, but is there a point where relying on one too much can be detrimental?  Is there a difference between women and men and what drives parenting decisions?

Join us this week at 5PM EST as we talk to Sharon Girodo of Mom Time TV and Bruce Sallan of A Dad’s Point Of View, about parenting styles and the driving factors behind them. Click the links or the images below to find out more about these two fabulous parents!


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